Does Relationship Advice Help?

Relationship help and advice is mostly used when we are heading for a breakup.

Whatever the reason for the end of the relationship, whether it was your decision or not it can take quite a while to resolve. If you were surprised by the breakup the pain can remain in your heart for a long time and you may feel insecure, angry and resentment. It’s also quite common to feel that you have a low self esteem.

Doesn’t matter whether the relationship was going on for just a few years or for decades there is ALWAYS a mourning period for the relationship, a period of grief. You feel as though some one very close to your heart has died. What may be a surprise is that regardless of who pushed for the ending you both will feel the loss.  It is very important that you allow time for this to work it’s way through, it may be that the grief passes by itself. If not then it’s time to get some relationship advice.

Wether you’re still living together or not it would be great if you can both go to relationship counselling. The very least it could do is make your position clear. A good counsellor, doing their job well, will not judge but should help you talk with each other in a safe space.

Sometimes it is far better to accept that the relationship or marriage has ‘run it’s course’ and it’s time to head off in different directions. But if you’ve been together for many years this can be quite scary. Hopefully by working with the relationship counsellor you can accept that you’ll be better off on your own.

One of the benefits then is to manage the ending so that no blame exists – instead just a ‘grown up’ parting of the ways. That way you can still respect each other. It will also make the next stage of living on your own and lot easier as you’ll KNOW it’s the right thing to do.