How to decide whether to End or not to End a Relationship?

Every relationship goes through rocky times, this is perfectly normal. What can happen though is the rough times stretch out for months or even years! There eventually comes a time when you need to decide to do something.

Sometimes a break from each other is needed in order to understand if you still want and need each other. Although it may seem impossible you need to analyze the situation objectively and come up with a view – weighing up the pros and cons and seeing which side the balance is on. Are there more positives or negatives; after adding up the two columns which has the greatest weight?

You need to decide if you are happy enough with each other. Are you capable of making decisions together or does the situation descend into a battleground? Are you even compatible in the movies that you want to watch?

Taking all of these different aspects into account will allow you to see a pattern and see whether or not there is hope in the relationship. Are you willing to change your ways to make it work? Notice I said you because you really can’t expect anyone else to change for you. If you are willing to change then there is a chance. If you aren’t willing and hope that others will bend to your will then you are in for a rude surprise. Even if it does work it will be a temporary fix at best.

You need to make important decisions when you are in control of yourself emotionally. Emotions are important and shouldn’t be ignored but its difficult to make a good sound choice when your riding an emotional roller coaster! If it’s a more long term view you need then its far better to wait until you find a calm space with no distractions.

Knowing what you need is important, having a calm center means you can act for the better good of all concerned – including yourself! It’s not enough to know what your partner needs – you have a duty to yourself too.

If you are contemplating a relationship break you need to make a decision based on facts as well as emotions. It needs to feel right and be intellectually right.

You then have the strength to carry out the right actions knowing that you have made a solid, considered, decision.